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“All you need is love, love, love is all you need”

So its out there. My separation from my wife, after 7 years together we decided to call it quits. That’s what’s been going on in my absence. Now with every end, there is a beginning, A rebirth if you will.

What’s next? Well, I’m diving back into the wonderful world of polyamory. I met this amazing Woman and her husband. I meet “Red” on Instagram. As I sat watching the “World of Warcraft” movie, out of sheer boredom I decided to post a picture update. And she saw it and commented. What magic words did she use? “I’m on WOW right now lol” and with those words, my life changed. We started talking and within a few hours, it felt like I had known her my entire life. We share a love for almost everything, Games, books, movies, and history. We hit it off. This happened so organically before I knew it I was in love. we have talked for hours every day since then.

Now, what about the husband and my wife? THATS CHEATING! nope sorry it wasn’t. how can I say that? Well ever since I started dating at 15 I have always been in an open relationship. My wife and I were having problems. I am extremely loving and affectionate. I need Physical love and attention and a lot of it. My wife….not so much (now I am simplifying that down a million % I know she wouldn’t want our shit aired out) so out of love, she tried something new to her “Polyamory.” What is Polly you ask:

The practice, state or ability to have more than
one sexual loving relationship at the same time, with the full
knowledge and consent of all partners involved.
Now even tho we decided to try it, I was never actively looking for anyone. When “Red” came along I went to my wife for approval and her blessing. She gave it to me. Over the next few weeks, both relationships grew. Having that excitement of a new relationship showed me how I had been slacking in taking care of my wife. It was amazing. They were talking to each other and all was well.
Now my wife and I have always been opposites. I’m loud and outgoing, she is shy and quiet. She goes to church and I am a metal head. She is in recovery and I’m a pothead. We get along so well. we worked, I don’t know how but we worked. That said the stress of Issues we had before and what I can only assume the guilt of the church and social norms, got to her. So after 7 years, we decided that it was time to adjust our relationship. We love each other so much and we understood we both needed things the other person couldn’t give us. She left in November.
Now Back to “Red” okey red is also married and was recently Polly when we started talking. Our relationship grew. It felt like she was made for me. From our likes and hobbies to our sexual kinks. We goofed around and play games together. Then we met in real life. She flew out for a week. That week changed everything. My wife gave me the ok and I got the kids out of town. (you would not believe how hard I had to work for that one) It was unbelievable. We worked, and we worked so damn well. I did something I never got to do before, I collared her. She agreed to be mine. At that moment we were bound to each other.
So what about her husband? Well, we get along super well. It’s scary just how alike we are. 9/10 times we crack the same joke. We love the same movies. He’s a gamer. I went out of my way at the beginning of mine and Red relationship to talk to him and build that friendship. I wanted him to like me, after all, I was sleeping with his wife lol. I respect him, he respects me. We are both extremely confident and secure in who we are and our dick size that there is no stupid macho chest puffing. He is an amazing guy and a great father. I respect the hell out of him.
Ok now that I caught you up to speed (remember this is a summary, not the whole story) where does that leave me? Well with my wife gone and 4 kids, there was no way I could make it on my own where I am. Red and her husband and I decided to give this a shot. Were becoming a Triad. The gang and I are moving to WV. Taking a leap and stepping out of my comfort zone. I have never been to the east coast, hell the farthest east I’ve been is Reno NV. This is the scariest thing I have ever done But at the same time one of the most exciting. I have the potential of having the relationship and big family I have always wanted. I believe in love. “Love is a many splendid thing,
love lifts us up where we belong, all you need is love!”