“Can a man change the stars?”
“Yes William. If he believes enough, a man can do anything!”
I cant control much in this life. I Cant change how people treat me how they judge me, see me, or even trust me. The only thing i can change is how I choose to respond to such things.
“If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. … We need not wait to see what others do.”
These words have always moved me to better myself. At times its so hard for me to follow through. Get up on time, Do what i need to do, adulting. Adulting is hard, i have known idea what I am doing. Dose anyone? How do these people do it. It’s a struggle every day just to get 4 kids up and ready to school. I should get an award for the fact i have yet to kill one yet (from not knowing what Im doing or for dealing with their shit.) I think a lot of the struggle comes from my own childhood. I know, I know, “Sigmund Freud’s psychoanalytic theory of personality argues that human behavior is the result of the interactions among three component parts of the mind: the id, ego, and superego.” There is also the whole nature vs nurture thing. Truth is i had a shitty child hood. Parents were jackasses (They tried so i got to give them that) and do to drugs and continuing cycles my own personal hell was created. That is not what this is about….today. This story has everything to Changing that. I have tried so hard to change my world. I have succeeded and failed many times on this journey. Two steps forward and one step back but i keep going. My kids have a life i never had. In all ways better and in their own ways its rough. Were poor. We make due but were always living hand to mouth. Even tho i dropped out in the ninth grade and i got my G.E.D in 2006 and worked my ass of to build what i have. I got married Had 2 kids and started working a steady job. 2 steps forward, Then in 08 life sucked. Lost my job like every one else. My wife decided to leave me, one step back. I pulled my self back from a dark place. Wife came back with twins. Took on two more kids. moved to Oregon. Two steps forward. Wife decides she’s done with me again and this time it sticks. I move back to cali. One step backwards, See the pattern. Now i am not complaining, just telling a story. Giving you a peek behind the keys if you will. The long story short, We can only change who we are. Every day i wake up and try to do better than the last. New struggles, old problems they will always be there, we can’t change it. So stop trying. One thing that i found that helps is a line from an Alice Cooper song.
All of my life was a laugh and a joke
And a drink and a smoke
And then I passed out on the floor
Again and again and again and again and again
With a smile and a joke, I manage to get by. I try so hard not to take life Serious. Kids are annoying, the customer is always an Asshole and the only two things you can count on is death and taxes. So why let it get to you. Tomorrow we get to try again. Life is what YOU make it so why not let it be Rainbows and lollipops. No I’m not saying if something sucks get over it. You have every right to feel, that’s what makes us who we are. What I am trying to say is It will get better as long as you keep moving forward.
Wow i have no idea what that is. I never know whats going to come out when i sit down here. i am not going to edit it. It is what it is. so if you agree or not let me know. please i need some Critiques. I have never written before so any notes are welcome. Thanks for taking some time and reading the ramblings of an idiot.